Tamzin Outhwaite addresses painful co-parenting journey after Tom Ellis cheating claims

Tamzin Outhwaite has laid bare the fallout from her failed marriage to Lucifer star Tom Ellis, revealing that he’s now “in and out” of their children’s lives - and that she’s still discovering the extent of his betrayal, even a decade later.

Speaking candidly on the Parenting Hell podcast, the EastEnders actress, 54, opened up about the painful split. She went on to detail her life now, including the difficulty of co-parenting with him, and the pride she feels in how far she and her family have come.

Tamzin and Tom tied the knot in 2006, introduced by actor James McAvoy. But their nine-year marriage ended in 2014 after Ellis reportedly confessed to an affair with Lost actress Emilie de Ravin. In 2023, she stunned fans with a now-deleted tweet marking the 10-year anniversary of the day Ellis walked out.

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"I still meet new people on jobs who reveal more infidelities and lies that he committed," she wrote. "But thankfully my heart and soul are clear and clean and I could not be happier right now." She later added: "I was marking the 10-year anniversary with pride... a feeling of triumph and genuine gratitude." For anyone struggling, the most important relationship you will ever have is with yourself."

Tamzin shares two children with Ellis - Flo, 17, and Marnie, 12. When podcast host Josh Widdicombe mentioned the split happened "about 10 years ago," she replied: "Yeah, it was literally when the kids were tiny. Marnie was not even one."

And on Ellis’ role in their lives now, she commented, “He lives in LA. So he’s pretty in and out of their lives, but they have a lot of support and people that have been around."

Opening up further about her family life, Tamzin revealed how her eldest child, Flo,came out as transgender around age 10 or 11. "I did have two daughters and now I have a son and a daughter," she said. "That’s quite easy for me to say now, but it wasn’t maybe six or seven years ago." She admitted the early days were difficult: "There were some dark times... It was a very distressing time."

"Initially, I would say, don’t be ridiculous. I didn’t say it out loud, but my mind went, ‘That’s ludicrous.’”

The family has sought therapy and support, with Tamzin admitting, "We worked together as a family and with outside help," she said. "If you push back on a kid, they’ll want to do the opposite. I didn’t say, ‘You can’t be that,’ but it was tough."

Now, she is incredibly happy with her inspiring children. The ex-soap star shared, "He’s an incredibly funny, intelligent boy… an incredible actor, desperate to be a comedy writer." Outhwaite said."To see him thriving is just nothing but relief and joy for me."

Since the split, Ellis has remarried—tying the knot with screenwriter Meaghan Oppenheimer in 2019. Tamzin was in a long-term relationship with filmmaker Tom Child, which ended recently, though she still calls him her "best mate" and says he’s often around.

When discussing public conversations around trans rights, Tamzin said, "It really is less than one per cent of the population… but I’m just so happy for him."

"The whole LGBT community get a bit of a hard rap at the moment – it’s quite tough," adding, "Every situation is different, every child is different… You’re not alone."

The Mirror has reached out to Tom Ellis' representatives for comment.

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